November 24, 2009

Last night at the AMA’s a performer danced suggestively during a performance and shared a kiss with the guitarist. This is noteworthy (apparently) because both the performer and guitarist were men. Adam Lambert, the singer in question, has responded to criticism pointing out a double standard. And he’s right.

Apparently a bunch a people have their knickers in a twist over this, but unless they’re also going to complain to the FCC about women kissing and dancing suggestively they have absolutely no leg to stand on. The lesbian kiss is a tried and true gimmick trotted out by flailing television shows in order to bring eyeballs back to the broadcast. Ally McBeal did it; The OC did it; heck, Buffy did it, too. With the exception of Buffy these moments of passion didn’t really come in a longer, well developed story that was respectful to the characters; they were naked audience grabs, hyped up in the weeks preceding the episodes. I don’t really recall America getting up in arms about this when it was women kissing, but Adam Lambert kissing his guitarist apparently crosses a line of propriety we’re not willing to sanction. It’s more than a little ridiculous.

My generation is the first that is by and large unconcerned with peoples sexuality, and when you plot attitudes toward homosexuality demographically it looks like a pyramid. Each successive generation is more ok with homosexuality than the last. Maybe in twenty years this won’t even be a conversation we’re having, but I wish it was now.


6 Responses to “Adam”

  1. Jessie said

    madonna did it too…. but that was kind of a big deal. but i get what you’re saying.

  2. christophermahlon said

    From what I remember people weren’t screaming about Madonna and Britney kissing being inappropriate, just shocking. People are reacting with disgust to one man kissing another. Chill, folks.

  3. Mom said


    It’s true that people are becoming more and more accepting, but I don’t think that we’re quite to the point where you can say that one current generation is by and large unconcerned with peoples sexuality. You are lucky that you have a lot of friends and classmates with open minds. Work in a high school and watch and listen. It’s definitely not to the point of a majority being unconcerned with sexuality. But, it’s definitely getting better all the time. And, it’s individuals like you and your friends that keep discussing this issue out in the open that will help others become used to the idea and it won’t seem like such a big deal.

    • Mom said

      Nice website. I will be able to use this in my grad studies. Thank you.

      I see Iowa is more than 1/2 way down the list on acceptance; and I know from Sociology that the students I deal with (under age 18 & not represented on the map) are most largely influenced by parents’ viewpoints and that of peers.

      I was watching “South Pacific” last night, and there’s a song in there about how you have to be taught to hate; you aren’t born that way. I think that is probably evident in the opinions of many people. They have not experienced different cultures in many cases (true for my school, for sure), so they are relying on the opinions of parents and peers who usually also have no experiences with other cultures.

      Watching that show last night reminded me of when my cousin, Amy, was adopted from Vietnam over 30 years ago. My grandfather was very against the whole idea. He was born in the early 1900s and had lived through the world wars and the Korean war and the Vietnam war. He had not served, but he was alive to hear the comments made on the news reports and read the newspaper. His views were definitely skewed.

      In contrast, my aunt and uncle just wanted a baby girl. They had four live births of boys, and the fourth had died shortly after birth. To them, Amy’s nationality was not important. I know that they dealt with many issues over the years and that Amy has visited her homeland. But no one thought it odd that Amy married a white man. (But it’s kind of fun to have her stop by my school and to introduce her to people as my cousin – the look of confusion in their eyes is great!)

      And, by the way, my grandfather ended up loving Amy without reservation. He just needed to have knowledge of her.

      Now, jump ahead to last year when my second cousin gave birth to a baby boy whose father is black. Sarah was afraid to introduce the father to the family back home (she lives in North Carolina) because of the reaction. My mother said something to me one day about how Sarah was living with a black man and having his baby. I said, “Mom, if they love each other, what’s the difference between them and Amy and Steve?” (See above) Sarah’s father passed away last spring, and Sarah brought Brayden, her baby, to the funeral so we all got to meet him in person. No one cared that his skin was a little darker. He was still precious. Sarah’s no longer with Brayden’s father, but that’s another issue; and Brayden looks so much like Sarah’s father that it is a daily blessing to her to see her father’s face in her son’s.

      I know I am way off subject of accepting gays, but not really. Things will come gradually. But it takes talking about it and standing up for what you know is right for others to see and learn. It also takes exposure to different cultures and lifestyles so that people can see that the differences are small, and most of the time are very interesting!

      • christophermahlon said

        Good reply mom. Mitch’s stats are more what I was getting at. I realize that an accepting stance toward gays isn’t exactly common at DC-G, but Iowa students aren’t representative of the national average, and DC-G ones certainly aren’t. These things take time, but that fact shouldn’t make people stop pushing for equality.

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